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Here are a few ways to help your child prepare for a visit:

1. Set Expectations in Simple, Clear Language

Let your child know what to expect during the visit, using words they can understand.

“You’ll be spending time with [Parent’s Name] at a safe place, and a helper will be there the whole time to make sure everything goes well.”

Avoid sharing too many adult details or negative emotions. Focus on making the visit feel predictable and safe.

2. Offer Comfort and Reassurance

Let your child know it’s okay to feel nervous, excited, or unsure. Remind them they’re not alone, and that you’ll be there to pick them up when it’s over.

You might say:

“It’s okay to have big feelings. I’m proud of you for trying something new.”

3. Bring a Familiar Item

If allowed, help your child choose a comfort item like a favorite stuffed animal, book, or small toy to bring along. It can offer emotional security during the visit.

4. Keep the Visit Predictable

Give your child a clear idea of how long the visit will be and what the process will look like.

“You’ll be there for one hour, and then I’ll pick you up. We can talk or go get a snack afterward if you want.”

Stick to drop-off and pick-up times to help them feel secure.

5. Check In After the Visit

When the visit is over, create a quiet space for your child to reflect. Ask simple, open-ended questions like:

“How did it feel to see [Parent’s Name] today?”
“Was there anything you liked or didn’t like?”

Let them share freely—there’s no “right” answer. Just listening can help them feel heard and supported.

Remember: Your Support Makes a Difference

Every child reacts differently to supervised visits, and that’s okay. What matters most is your consistent support, your willingness to listen, and your commitment to helping them feel safe through it all.

If you have questions or need support preparing your child, don’t hesitate to contact us. We’re here to help.

Keep the Focus on the Child

• Prioritize your child’s emotional well-being above personal conflict.
  
  

• Ask yourself: “Is this decision best for my child?”
  
  

• Avoid using your child as a messenger or emotional go-between.
  
  

2. Communicate Respectfully

• Use calm, respectful language—especially during drop-offs, pickups, or visitation scheduling.
  
  

• When direct communication is difficult or not allowed, use written forms like parenting apps or agency-approved contact.
  
  

• Stay solution-focused, not blame-focused.
  
  

3. Be Reliable & Consistent

• Show up on time for visits.
  
  

• Follow all agreed schedules, rules, and court orders.
  
  

• Children feel more secure when both parents are dependable and predictable.
  
  

4. Avoid Speaking Negatively About the Other Parent

• Don’t vent or criticize the other parent in front of your child.
  
  

• Encourage your child to have healthy relationships with both parents (when safe and appropriate).
  
  

• Focus on modeling respectful behavior—even when it’s hard.
  
  

5. Respect the Rules of Supervised Visitation

• Follow the supervisor’s guidance—it's in place to keep visits safe and productive.
  
  

• Bring only approved items or guests.
  
  

• Use this time to build a positive bond, not to argue, question, or manipulate.
  
  

6. Stay Child-Centered During Visits

• Talk about fun, light topics your child enjoys (hobbies, school, shows).
  
  

• Avoid adult conversations, court topics, or emotional pressure.
  
  

• Focus on play, connection, and being present.
  
  

7. Don’t Involve Your Child in Adult Matters

• Keep legal, financial, or custody conversations away from your child.
  
  

• Let them be a kid—they don’t need to understand every detail to feel loved and supported.
  
  

8. Use Support When Needed

• Seek co-parenting counseling, classes, or support groups.
  
  

• Don’t hesitate to ask your visitation agency or court for resources.
  
  

• Remember: asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
  
  

9. Maintain Healthy Boundaries

• Know when to engage and when to step back.
  
  

• Document communication when necessary and avoid emotional texting or arguments.
  
  

• Focus on managing your response, not the other parent’s behavior.
  
  

10. Practice Self-Care

• Co-parenting can be emotionally draining—take time to care for yourself.
  
  

• A regulated parent = a calmer parenting experience.
  
  

• Therapy, journaling, rest, and support systems all matter.
  
  

Bonus Tip: You Don’t Have to Be Perfect—Just Present

Consistency, love, and effort go a long way. Stay committed to building a peaceful, respectful co-parenting path for the sake of your child’s mental and emotional well-being.